
Boundaries by age three
Boundary construction is most evident in three-year-olds. By this time, they should have mastered the following tasks: 1) The ability to be emotionally attached to others, yet without giving up a sense of self and one’s freedom to be apart. 2) The ability to say appropriate no’s to others without fear of loss of love. 3) The ability to take appropriate no’s from others without withdrawing emotionally. Cloud, Henry; Cloud, Henry; Townsend, John; Townsend, John (2008-09-09). Bo

Learning Boundaries
You, as an adult, have the power to create boundaries. You have personal rights to say things like: "No.” “I disagree.” “I will not.” “I choose not to.” “Stop that.” “It hurts.” “It’s wrong.” “That’s bad.” “I don’t like it when you touch me there.” We are supposed to learn the skill of saying no during childhood, but religion, cultural values, and parenting differences may have interfered with that process. Practice saying no, and affirm yourself that you have the right to